"Criticism is a really bad way to make a request."
I was watching Diane Sawyer on Oprah's show Master Class (which I think is brilliant by the way), and she said this quote regarding marriage from a woman she once interviewed.
How Brilliant! The root of most criticism comes from you wanting that person to change their behavior in some way. How much more growth as a couple and how much less hurt would there be if we merely came to that person with love and say "Hey this makes me feel this way when you do that, lets find a way that we can sort this out." also being honest with ourselves on why we are criticising in the first place: Is it really just playful? Is it really constructive?
This is one I am really going to think about next time I feel like making some playful sarcastic critic. Not just with my husband, but every relationship could really be changed without empty hurtful criticisms, but constructive conversations and solutions. This quote was definitely a growing moment for me.
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